Ava Adore

Obs: Minds of All Sizes

This post picks up where this one leaves off and is the last in the trio.

So, you’ve heard me talk about how freeing locker room conversation can be, and how unique the girls’ relationships to one another can be, and also how sociologically intriguing our interactions with customers can be… And there’s more.

I ended the last post in this section with,
‘Shave your head, dress in men’s clothing on stage, and still be a successful dancer. You don’t have to, but it helps make my point; after all, I do it.’

The other interesting point concerning the male/female flip in socialization at a strip club produces, yes, douchebags—but also open minded folk. For every guy who walks in looking to put a girl down to make himself feel better, there’s a guy who’s had his share of knocks in life and has a vein of empathy in his body.

To my customers’ credit, 99% of the time I’m asked, “Do you have a boyfriend?” (to which I reply, ‘No.’) it is always followed up with, “…A girlfriend?”

I don’t know if you have to be part of the lgbt community to understand how awesome that is. Sure, it’s not the first question, it’s not the default setting—but it is the follow-up question, no prompts, no side-glances, no Katy-Perry-like insinuations. It’s obvious and easy, as if it were there all along, a question you could ask anyone.

That, my friends, is some huge stride. It shows me, anyway, working at the House as I do—and granted I’m speaking from a few points-of-privilege, especially concerning locale—that sociologically it’s… a big change. Changes are happening and they’re happening everywhere. The degrees may differ but the change is real.